For instance, the date for pay website SeekingArrangement released a report in March 2019 that found that there are more than 2.7 million students in the United States who have used the website to help pay for college. Broken down by college, Georgia State University is the fastest growing sugar baby school. With websites like SeekingArrangement, users are on the same page in terms of what each party is seeking: one is there for companionship and the ability to help take care of someone while the other is there for companionship as well as financial stability.
Appearances can be deceiving, though. Although Coffee Meets Bagel allows for a range of super-specific preferences, the bagel it sends you may or may not match your specified preferences and, more often than not, if they do, they will be a significant distance away. The app can also be glitchy, often resulting in slow update and load times, and sometimes it’s frustrating that it sends you only a single bagel a day. You can speed things up a bit by using the “give & take” option, but it’ll cost you 385 beans to like someone who catches your eye.
Sites with specific demographics have become popular as a way to narrow the pool of potential matches. Successful niche sites pair people by race, sexual orientation or religion. In March 2008, the top 5 overall sites held 7% less market share than they did one year ago while the top sites from the top five major niche dating categories made considerable gains. Niche sites cater to people with special interests, such as sports fans, racing and automotive fans, medical or other professionals, people with political or religious preferences (e.g., Hindu, Jewish, Christian, Muslim, etc.), people with medical conditions (e.g., HIV+, obese), or those living in rural farm communities.
Once you’re a full-fledged member of The League, the fun begins. While there is a free option, most users opt for the paid membership option at $99 a month or $250 a year. As a paid member, you receive up to seven prospects each day during Happy Hour; tap the heart button if you like the prospect, or the X if you wish to move on. If you do match with another member, you have 21 days to contact each other. If you continuously fail to contact or reply to members, you will be deemed “flaky” by The League and it may send fewer prospects your way in the future.
It is possible that online dating, and self-advertising for romance in general, could be “a ‘natural’ response to a particular configuration of societally-imposed, modern life circumstances—time-pressured, work-centred, mass-mediated” (Coupland, 1996, p. 190). Brym and Lenton (2001) found that “career and time pressures are increasing, so people are looking for more efficient ways of meeting others for intimate relationships” (p. 3). As a group, online daters were not—in any study—found to be any less socially astute, or indeed less eligible, than non-users; on the contrary, “in Canada, Internet users are younger, better educated, more likely to be employed in the paid labour force, and more likely to earn [a] higher income than Canadians in general” (p. 3). Their reasons for using dating sites include increasing their options and meeting more people with similar interests (Whitty, 2007b); finding partners for long-term relationships or casual sex; convenience (working around difficult schedules or busy lives); and as a more palatable substitute for the “usual” ways of meeting people, such as bars (Whitty & Carr, 2006). However, whether or not online dating, with its promise of expanded “choice” of partners, actually yields more positive results than “traditional” practices is debatable (Wu & Chiou, 2009).
Why? I pretty much only use Hinge now. I have tried almost all of them: Tinder at one point in college, Bumble, OKCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel .... I found that Tinder was mainly for hook-ups and while I liked that guys were less grimy on Bumble, I’m pretty shy so I didn’t like that I had to be the one to initiate conversation. (Editor's Note: Women seeking men must message first on Bumble; for women seeking women, that rule goes away.)