CMB relies on a system of “coffee beans” in exchange for matches and “flowers," sent by admirers referred to as "bagels." The concept is cute, albeit unnecessary and kind of confusing. You can see which bagels like you in a scroll-down list of profiles labeled, "he likes you, he likes you, he likes you." The first time I use it I feel flattered, and also slightly attacked.
HER’s slogan is that it’s for queer women and made by queer women. This app is both for social and dating but has more of a social media kind of feel to it with the ability to add friends to your profile and look at other users’ friends list. If you’re a girl into girls and are looking for someone to hang out with or date, read up on some of the qualities that HER has to offer.
On the upside, the profiles are brief, which allows you to make decisions quickly. The downside is that short profiles make it harder to figure out what people are looking for. Knowing very little about a person can also make initial messaging more challenging. You'll need to wade through a sea of profiles, which makes it easy to pass over people you might have given a chance under different circumstances.
How does it work? If you are serious about looking for that special thing called love, then this is the site for you. eHarmony take this match-making lark very seriously, making them one of the best online dating sites around. They’ve even patented The eHarmony Compatibility Matching System. That’s right. They’ve taken 35 years of research to come up with a Relationship Questionnaire and pride themselves on matching users with people who are actually compatible with them.
Femininities, too, have shifted somewhat as expectations of women have changed over time. Women are more or less fully integrated into the workforce in Westernized countries such as Canada (though wages and workplace experiences still differ), and they have moved into more and different areas of public and economic life. However, women are still expected to exhibit some level of “delicacy,” and “assertiveness is [still] not part of the dominant female gender script” (Eckert & McConnell-Ginet, 2003, p. 49)—as most female politicians can attest . In pursuing intimate relationships, women are expected not to be too “forward” or (be seen to) give up sex too easily or to use sexualized language, because “female sexual behaviour translates as ‘loose’ and ‘unfeminine’ behaviour” (Paasonen, 2007, p. 50). Widely available cultural “scripts” for romance tend to reflect a deeply embedded heteronormativity, one that reinforces for women the notion that life is not complete without a romantic relationship (with a man) (Paasonen, 2007).
How does it work? A similar taste in music can be a great indicator as to whether you’re compatible with someone, so the fine folks behind Tastebuds have struck gold with their music-based online dating site. Getting started is dead simple: pick three artists or bands that you’re interested in, the gender you’re looking to date and press ‘go’. It’s a fun and relaxed site, which can introduce you to new music, concert buddies and potentially even your own real-life Caleb Followill.
This list of top dating sites includes broad focus companies like OKCupid, Match.com, PlentyofFish, and eHarmony. You can also vote for your favorite matchmaking for more specific demographics. Which of these websites has the best potential dates? Which have the best algorithms for matching people with your same interests? Which have the most relationship success stories? Vote up the best online dating sites, and add any that we missed.
OKCupid uses an algorithm to match you up with others, sort of like Zoosk does if you’ve ever used that. It takes your personality test questions and profile answers into account and then tries to find the best matches for you to message and get to know. This is the DoubleTake feature I talk a little bit more about below. You have the ability to look at anyone’s full profile, which is usually very detailed and gives their personality test information. When you search, you can filter out what you are looking for in your date. However, you can only look up users who are online, so the search the options that come back will be limited.
Interracial Match makes communication as straight-forward as the rest of its functions. Members can comment on other users’ profiles and pictures, use the interracial message board, engage in online chat, and use a familiar “Wink” system that many other dating sites employ. There’s nothing ground-breaking here, but all of the features are intuitive.
We couldn’t give you an extensive guide to online dating without mentioning sugar babies. This term is slang – usually for younger women who use online dating services to match with older, wealthier men who provide them with financial support in some way. This has become an increasingly popular way for young people to help ease the burden of student loan debt.
One of the better-known gay and lesbian dating apps, HER is a top option for queer women (and womxn) seeking a Tinder-style dating app that's exclusively focused on the LGBTQI+ experience. In its previous incarnation, it was known as Dattch; as HER the app's aim is to be a more-inclusive queer dating hub. Yet, with initial matching based on liking photos from a grid of nearby users, those seeking a serious relationship will have to be ok with asking questions to see if there's a personality connection.8
How does it work? This online dating site does exactly what it says on the tin and only people deemed beautiful enough will be allowed to join. To become a member, applicants are required to be voted in by existing members of the opposite sex. Members rate new applicants over a 48-hour period based on whether or not they find the applicant ‘beautiful’. It sounds harsh, but the site claims that by admitting people based on their looks they’re removing the first hurdle of dating, saying that because everyone on the site is a fitty, members can concentrate on getting to know people’s character and personalities. Beautiful People also promises access to exclusive parties and top guest lists around the globe. Now for that brutal 48-hour wait…
Once you’re ready to communicate with your matches, InterracialCupid makes it simple. Free account users have full messaging capabilities—but only to premium users. This means that two users with free accounts can’t communicate. That’s a downside, but it’s one that’s pretty common across dating apps. Once you start messaging, however, it’s easy and user-friendly. There is also a live chat room that helps increase your chances of chatting with the right one.
The OkCupid app is much more like a traditional dating site than most apps, because that's what it used to be, and still is, with the added convenience that you can now use it on your phone. You set up a profile which includes questions about things like your interests, lifestyle and what you're looking for in a relationship. You then get to browse profiles which will display a match percentage based on how much you have in common. People who use OkCupid find this a helpful way to filter through potential dates and find someone with whom they're going to have lots in common.